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Sex Life: I’m still searching for my second orgasm

Sex Life is a 3Xtra weekly series that delves into the joys, challenges, and thrills of sexuality within the Ghanaian community. Every week we speak to one Ghanaian anonymously and share their experience.

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Today’s guest on Sex Life is a 21-year-old zestful young lady with a high libido who has only had orgasm once in her lifetime. She talks about the joy she derives from sexual activities and how she struggles to overcome her sexual desires.

Tell me about your first sexual experience.

At the age of 16, I lost my virginity to my high school boyfriend. The activity was already planned in advance, and we eagerly anticipated the chance to see what everyone had been talking about at school. My boyfriend was 16 and inexperienced, just like me. Funny enough, both of us were extremely nervous and shy on the long-awaited day.

His hands trembled as he attempted to start the whole process. His voice was so trembling that I could sense his fear. Despite everything, we were both ecstatic when we actually had a sexual encounter.

What happened after your first experience?

We met a few more times and had sex after that experience. To be really honest, I loved what we were doing and, up until I had sex with other people, I was convinced he offered the very best sex. Oh God! Later, I understood that having sex with him was merely the bare minimum and that we were merely playing. After having sex with others, I had a heightened desire to engage in sexual activity.

Tell us more about sex with others

Well, talking about this makes me feel very guilty. At one point, I started to feel hyperactive because the new person I was having sex with had such alluring energy that I couldn’t stop wanting to have sex. My first experience with him was exquisite, and I was unable to take my thoughts off of him.

I had my first orgasm thanks to him. He explained everything to me after the action because I didn’t understand what an orgasm was at the time. I don’t recall ever having an orgasm with any other guy beyond him. Every other guy I met was merely self-centred and only concerned about his own satisfaction.

Why the strong desire for sexual activity then?

Naturally, I enjoy doing naughty things. My level of joy increases when I engage in sexual activities. No matter how superb my partner’s performance was, I still seem dissatisfied. I sometimes wish I could have sex for the remainder of my life. My world is spiced up by sex. If I try to elaborate further, words can fall short.

Have you tried other options when it comes to experiencing orgasm again?

Absolutely not. To my surprise, I don’t own any sex toys. Also, I don’t masturbate. Nothing can change the fact that I get pleasure in having sex with the opposite gender. That, in my opinion, explains why I haven’t explored other orgasm possibilities.

Ever tried talking to your partners about not experiencing orgasm?

They all appear self-centred, as I previously mentioned, but I have never found the perfect opportunity to bring it up. In all honesty, my only concerns were enjoying myself and attempting the next person if my present partner was unable to assist me in reaching climax. Without any regrets, I was living the life I wanted to live.

Tell us about your struggle to overcome your sexual desires.

I love sex, and I will continue to adore sex indefinitely. The issue is that, when my current partner isn’t up to the job, I’m always eager to try a new one. I’m becoming irresponsible as a result of this, although happily I never extracted Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs). I am unable to resist my sexual urges for more than a month. I want to have sex all the time.

Do you think you will ever experience orgasm again?

Simply said, I need to learn more about my body and how it functions and execute further exploration. In fact, I think that the alternatives I’m avoiding might be the key to taming my intense sex craving. I lack the courage and don’t even see the need to indulge in masturbation. I might have an orgasm once more in the future.

Do you still have sex?

I do. I’m not really concerned with reaching orgasm. My main priority is having fun, and while I want more, I am somewhat satisfied with what I have. I still satiate my sexual appetite because I will always adore sex.

How’ll you rate your sex life on a scale of 0-10

A strong 8.

Your last words

Simply enjoy yourself. After my first orgasm, I believe that if I had the bravery to do anything, I would now be at the top of my game and my desire would be in check.

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Written by
Regina Yaa Kyerewah Boafo

Yeah, bios are not all that. But a writer? I am all that and more!

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