A former Big Brother Naija (BBNaija) housemate, Elozonam has revealed that he self-sabotages and is inhibited.
In a recent interview with actress Chinasa Anukam on her show, ‘Is This Seat Taken’, the Nigerian actor indicated that no one has really had a feel of his romantic side because he was not ready to commit to anything.
“Dating me is an absolute rollercoaster. I would say the rollercoaster is a bit misleading. I don’t think anyone has gotten to see the real romantic side of me because I think I self-sabotage and I’m personally inhibited. I am not ready for that deep level of commitment because of the ‘shege’ I have seen in the past,” he disclosed.
Having love not going his way on two countless occasions during his University days, Elozonam said that he has tried to make it work in recent times but he can’t loosen up as expected of him.
“I have been in love twice in my university days and that’s where I saw the ‘shege’. Believe me when I say I have actually made a conscious effort to allow myself. When you try to lose yourself in the entire thing, something happens. To enjoy a romantic experience, you have to allow yourself to lose yourself in it. There has to be a very high level of vulnerability,” he stated.
Comparing the strength of women to men when it came to the topic, he commended the former and highlighted a trait in the latter.
“Women easily allow themselves to feel, which is a strength but for a guy, it’s like once you see something that you’ve seen before coming, you just catch yourself and it’s an involuntary action,” he pointed out.
The Nigerian content creator also admitted that he did believe vulnerability in a relationship is key.
“You know for a fact that you are cheating yourself by not allowing yourself to be that vulnerable or by always catching yourself when you’re falling. The best experiences are had when you’re vulnerable but you’re falling and you catch yourself unconsciously, thereby cheating yourself.
There’s very little you can do about it because it takes a lot of strength to be vulnerable, which is something a lot of single men don’t have,” he suggested.
When asked what love meant to him, Elozonam concluded by saying, “I think love means putting the other person before yourself every time. It’s a sacrifice especially when it is not convenient for you. I think in a nutshell, that’s what love is.”